My first everything pt. 1 post #1

This will be the first of many stories of my journey through martial arts, women, love, family, friends and myself.

I’m single again. Seven relationships later I’m back to square one. I thought I would start writing again. Been playing far too much wow lately. Been reading a book and inspired me to write about my life up until now. I always feel better after writing. I’ve been so lonely lately. I know I’m not alone in this and if I can help someone feel that they are not alone, that would be great.

The stories won’t be in any order. Just short stories of random event in my life as I remember them. Enjoy.

My first everything pt.1

September 1997

Day 1

I had turned 18 a couple of months ago. I haven’t really competed since I was 11. Went to a couple of tournaments here and there. But nothing too serious. I got a call from someone in Alabama who was putting together a karate team and wanted me and a friend to join. I’m always down for someone to pay for me to compete.

I had started to find my own style of forms. I was having so much fun tricking, making up new moves and trying ones other had been practicing. Karate had becoming so boring in my teens. There are only so many basics and traditional forms I could do. I would learn them so fast that I got bored. I would just go out and freestyle a whole form with whatever music was around. It was fun to just go out and perform. Now I was able to go out and travel and perform against people who were better then me.

The tournament was in Atlanta. At the time it was the tournament to go to. It was a great feeling to be going back. I had spent a couple of weeks preparing my music and form. Which was unlike me to be so prepared for an event.

I entered the tournament room. It was Friday night. It was a great feeling to be back on the scene. Familiar faces and the energy of excitement. I did the same old thing I always did. Walked around for a bit until I found a group of friends I wanted to chill with.

We sat and bullshitted for a bit. Then I looked to the entrance and saw the girl that would change my life forever. She was unbelievably cute and had an amazing body. She had beautifully tan skin and a smile that could make you forget anything that was on your mind.

I knew I had to have her. She also walked in with a guy. Oh well. At least I have something nice to look at for the weekend.

So back to preparing to compete. But I couldn’t stay focused. I have never seen an Asian girl as gorgeous as her before. At the time I had yellow fever and it was bad. I was lion focused on his prey and nothing could take my mind off of it. So the plotting began. I watched her talk to a friend of mine who I have known for a long time. We started out in the same martial arts association. He was the ideal martial artist. He was super respectful, polite, reserved and he competed in traditional divisions. As messed up as it was think this way. I knew she wasn’t into him because he was so normal. Time to plant a seed.

I walked up to him and started small talk. Completely ignored her. We talked for 5 minutes. Not once did even acknowledge her presence. I was sure she was always the center of attention. I needed for her to think of why I didn’t give her any attention. I wanted her to ask my friend about me when I left. He could tell her who I was and what I did. I said bye to him and walked away without saying anything to her.

The trap was set. Now all I would have to do is perform and she would be interested. But there was a problem. I had lost my music and didn’t have a back up copy. I was screwed. So I had to improvise. I had the new notorious big cd in my cd player. The only song even close to be useable was mo money mo problems. This was far from what I intended to use. I was gonna follow the music trend and use a techno song. Little did I know that this one mistake was going to be the one of the most important events in my martial arts career.

So I started trying to modify my form to the new music. But it wouldn’t work. The song was too slow and it would just be background music. At this level couldn’t just play background music. So I decided to just freestyle it. If I was gonna be fucked, I might as well go out with a bang.

My division started and I was getting mentally prepared. But of course as I’m getting into the zone. The girl I was interested in was watching my division. She wasn’t there to watch me, the guy she was with was there. All the fear of trying to do a form that would win went out the window. I wanted to do a form that would win her over.

When my turn came up. Something came over me. I had intention of playing by the rules. Doing everything by the way a good competitor should. I went against all of it. I walked in with a strut in my step. I felt that I had to show her that I was different from everyone here. I owned this shit.

My music began. And I went into show off mode. I felt like I was at the club. I loved this song. It was my shit. When it played at the club I would get out there and dance my ass off. It had been ingrained in my body and mind. I was blending martial arts and dance together without thinking about it. I just went with what my body told me. People were cheering and I haven’t even started my form yet. It was only the intro. There is no better way to get you pumped then to have people cheering for you before u left loose.

I performed my form and every trick I did was followed by cheering and clapping. I haven’t felt this way in so long. I was hamming it up. I could see everyone and hear everything. I finished my form and felt amazing. I knew I made a good impression on her. I could have cared less about what the judges thought. I won the division and was going to be in the nighttime finals. This would be where I seal the deal.

I left the tournament that night feeling accomplished and excited.

Day 2

The next day I slept in because I didn’t have to do anything Saturday until later that night. I went to the tournament way later then everyone else. I did this on purpose for a couple of reasons. First off, I wanted to sleep in. second I wanted her to wonder where I was or if I was going to be back. She wanted to see me again and I wanted to make her wait.

I walked in and saw her with my friend again. This time I talked both of them. I smiled and was talked to him and occasionally had her in the conversation. I wasn’t because I was smooth. It was because I was actually really nervous around her. The other time I didn’t even look at her so it was easy to be cool. After seeing her I was love struck. She was a total hottie. I found out the guy she was with was her brother. Thank the lord. Only problem now was if my friend was interested in her. I would have to back off.

I left them to get away from her because I was starting to drool I think. Later that day I asked my friend if he was interested in her. He said no and that they were good friends. The gods of love have presented me with a gift.

But now I had another dilemma. I needed a way for her to feel like how I felt about her. But I don’t have game. I am horrible at actually talking to girls. I just let either dancing, martial arts or been around a girl long enough that I felt comfortable enough to talk to her.

I had one option. I had this form that I did for a karate show. It was to a slow song. I did it at the time because I wanted to try something different. I remember afterwards I had a lot of girls tell me how they liked it. Normally its just guys saying, “yo man that was dope”. So do I choose to try to win this tournament with the new form I had or do I do the other form and get the girl. I didn’t even hesitate with this decision. GET THE GIRL!

The nighttime show came around and I was nervous. I had never done anything like this before. Nor have I done it for a girl. I made extra over the top by wearing a white belt. I thought go big or go home. I’ll definitely know if she is interested or not.

To be honest, to this day it is one of my most favorite forms. I feel like a performer and not a competitor when I do it. It’s a beautiful song. Kenny Lattimore – For You. I finished the form and wasn’t sure what people thought of it. It was really quiet out there. But I knew it could go that way. At this point no one has ever tried anything like this and it could be hard to swallow. It didn’t bother to me. If I got the girl it would all be worth it. I ended up losing in the grand's.

I was approached that night by a lot of people that said they loved my form. Told me all types of things. More specific comments then all my other forms. I guess people were just struck off guard by it.

Ok its game time. There is an after party where all the under 21’s go. I know for sure she would be there. I don’t remember exactly what I was wearing. But I think I wore my overalls. I always wore them because they were out of style but it gets you a lot of female attention for some reason.

I see her with my friend and come by to greet them. She compliments me on my form. My friend knows what I’m up to and he leaves us be. This is where my game is the tightest.

I teach her a dance step. We smile, giggle and have a good time. We dance and get closer. I smell her hair. Her scent is the beauty of life. I couldn’t imagine a better way to spend this night.

We later joined our friends somewhere else hand in hand. Her hands were so soft. Nothing is like the magical feel of a woman with soft hands in yours. We then all end up in a friend’s room.

We chill on the couch. We chat it up for a bit. She is laying on me with her back on my body. She is truly a gifted girl. I never had a girl this hot, this close to me ever. All my friends have left the room. So her and I started to make out like crazy. I’m trying to unbutton her outfit. But the button won’t come off. WTF, I swear I spent like 5 minutes trying to get it off. Then she tells me it doesn’t unbutton it unzips in the back. Wow I felt like an idiot. I unzipped it but it ended up killing the mood and we end up on bed talking for a while.

I loved hearing her voice. I could talk to her hours without ever being bored. Then another friend of mine enters the room. He has been trying to hook up with this girl also. He decided he was gonna try to kill it for me. He stands at the edge of the bed and says “ KIM DO YOU ARE THE MAN!” Wow I was dumbfounded. I thought for sure she would think I was only interested in hooking up with her. Which was my intention at first. But now I really liked everything about her.

She was unfazed by it and we laughed about it. She was amazing. I have never met a girl like this. I was on cloud nine. It was getting really late and she had to go back to her room. Her dad and brother where they’re and would worry about her. So I walked her to her room. Gave her a kiss good bye.

I walked away. Feeling so happy about how the weekend ended. I didn’t ask her for her phone number. I didn’t really care. I didn’t think I would ever see her again and didn’t want to ruin this amazing experience that would always be a special memory to me.